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A gentle look at trauma loops, attachment and the nervous system There’s a particular kind of heartbreak that doesn’t come from another person, it comes from recognising yourself in the same painful pattern again. You promised you’d choose differently. You swore you’d speak up this time. You told yourself you wouldn’t shrink, chase, shut down, over‑give or ignore the red flags. And yet… here you are. In a familiar dynamic. Feeling the familiar ache. Watching an old version of

There are moments in a conversation where a single metaphor lands so cleanly that it stays with you long after the episode ends. Listening to Esther Perel (Belgian psychotherapist, bestselling author, leading expert and internationally recognised voice on relationships and intimacy) on the Call Her Daddy podcast, there was a brief moment where she spoke about co-dependency in a way that felt profoundly clarifying. It wasn’t the main topic of the episode. It wasn’t a deep dive

Inspired by Thais Gibson’s conversation with Jay Shetty There’s a moment in Thais Gibson’s conversation with Jay Shetty that captures the heart of attachment work: “Attachment styles aren’t personality types, they’re patterns. They’re the echoes of what we learned about love long before we had the language to describe it. And those patterns quietly shape who we’re drawn to, how we show up in conflict, and why certain relationships feel like home… even when they hurt.” This is

When couples reach out for support, it’s often one partner who makes the first move - and in many relationships, that partner is the woman. It’s incredibly common to hear, “I want to come to counselling, but my partner doesn’t want to.” If this is your experience, you’re not alone. And importantly, it doesn’t mean your partner doesn’t care, doesn’t love you or doesn’t want things to improve. There are many reasons men hesitate to come to counselling and most of them are roote