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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) offers powerful tools not only for individuals navigating anxiety, stress or depression but also for couples wanting to build a more flexible, compassionate relationship. Emotional Resilience Starts With Awareness ACT teaches that thoughts and feelings come and go like weather. When couples learn to notice their internal experiences without reacting impulsively, communication becomes gentler and more grounded. Helpful questions include:

When we’re young, many of us grow up believing that healthy relationships should feel easy - always connected, always flowing, always harmonious. No one teaches us that all relationships naturally move through three states : connection , disconnection and repair . And because we’re not taught this, many couples panic when the flow breaks, assuming something is wrong rather than recognising a normal relational rhythm. As Terry Real (a renowned couples therapist and founder of

Relationships aren’t built in grand gestures - they’re strengthened in the quiet, ordinary moments that couples intentionally create together. Over time, these small rituals become the emotional glue that keeps partners connected, even during stressful seasons. Why Shared Rituals Matter Rituals give couples something predictable, comforting and meaningful to return to. They create a sense of “us” - a shared identity that feels safe and grounding. Research shows that couples w

Relationships, like houses, need strong foundations. Dr. John and Julie Gottman’s Sound Relationship House  model offers a beautiful metaphor: just as a home is built brick by brick, healthy relationships are built through daily habits of care, respect and shared meaning. Let’s walk through the key “levels” of this house together - and explore how you can strengthen yours. Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner’s Inner World A love map is the mental roadmap you hold of your partner’

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. But how we navigate it can either deepen connection or create distance. Dr. John Gottman’s research - spanning over four decades and thousands of couples - identified four key behaviours that often signal relationship distress. He called them the “ Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse .” While the name might sound dramatic, the insight is simple and powerful: these four patterns tend to escalate conflict and erode emotio

When to Consider Relationship Counselling Relationships are deeply personal, but they’re also shaped by the pressures of everyday life. Whether you’re navigating parenting, career changes or emotional disconnect, it’s normal to hit rough patches. What matters is how you respond. In Queensland, more couples than ever are seeking support early, recognising that relationship counselling isn’t a last resort - it’s a proactive step toward clarity, connection and emotional wellbein

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. Couples may experience disagreements, misunderstandings or differing perspectives - and while these moments can feel challenging, they also offer opportunities for growth, healing, and deeper connection. In this post, we’ll explore gentle, evidence-informed strategies to help couples navigate conflict with empathy and intention, drawing on insights from relationship research and therapeutic practice. What We’ll Cover: Common cau

In today’s fast-paced world, relationships can easily slip into the background. Whether with family, friends, or partners, nurturing these connections is essential to our emotional wellbeing. At Equanimous Mind Works, I believe that strong relationships are built on understanding, communication and mutual respect. This guide offers gentle, practical ways to deepen your relationships and cultivate lasting bonds. Communicate with Care Supportive communication is the foundation

Relationships are one of the most meaningful - and sometimes challenging - parts of our lives. Whether you're navigating the early stages of love, managing the demands of parenting or facing long-term partnership hurdles, it’s natural to experience moments of tension, disconnection or uncertainty. Relationship counselling (also known as couples therapy ) offers a safe, supportive space to work through these challenges. It’s not about assigning blame or pointing fingers - it’s