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Relationship Counselling
Relationship counselling provides a safe and supportive space to explore the challenges, patterns and emotions that arise in any of your connections - whether with a partner, family member, friend or colleague. It’s designed to help you feel understood, gain clarity about your needs and develop practical tools for healthier communication, stronger boundaries and more fulfilling relationships across all areas of your life.
Healthier Connections in Every Area of Life
Relationships are at the heart of our wellbeing - whether with partners, family, friends or colleagues. They can bring joy, support and meaning but they can also be challenging, confusing or painful at times.
Individual relationship counselling provides a safe and supportive space to explore the patterns, challenges and emotions that arise in your connections. It’s designed to help you feel understood, gain clarity about your needs and develop practical tools for healthier communication, trust and boundaries - so you can move forward with greater confidence and more fulfilling relationships.
Read more in my recent article "What Is Relationship Counselling?"
Common Struggles in Relationships
Ongoing
conflict or
frequent misunderstanding
Feeling distant, disconnected or unsupported
Trust issues or unresolved past hurts
Navigating separation, loss or uncertainty in a relationship
Difficulty setting healthy boundaries with family, friends or colleague
These struggles are more common than you might think - and they don’t mean your relationships are beyond repair. With the right support, they can become opportunities for growth, insight and healthier patterns of connection.
Through counselling, you can begin to experience:
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Improved communication and understanding
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Rebuilding trust and strengthening emotional connection
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Gaining clarity about the direction of important relationships
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Learning healthier ways to manage conflict and differences
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Greater confidence and wellbeing in how you relate to others
Relationships don’t have to remain stuck in cycles of conflict or disconnection. With the right support, you can learn new ways of relating, strengthen your sense of self and create more balanced, fulfilling connections
The Benefits of Relationship Counselling
My Approach
I’m especially passionate about supporting people to strengthen their relationships and build healthier patterns of connection - whether in romantic partnerships, families, friendships or workplaces. My work is informed by a blend of evidence‑based approaches, which I adapt to your unique needs and circumstances:
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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) - helping you clarify your values, respond differently to difficult thoughts and emotions and take steps toward the kind of relationships you want.
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Gottman Method (Level 2 Training) - a research‑based approach focused on emotional connection, communication, and conflict management.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) - an attachment‑based model that helps identify negative interaction cycles and create new patterns of emotional bonding.
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Presence‑Oriented Relationship Therapy (Connection, Change & Trust) - a relational framework that supports building trust and navigating change with presence and compassion.
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Advanced Study in Relationship Counselling and Conflict Resolution – providing a strong foundation for supporting individuals through relational challenges.
Together, these approaches allow me to tailor sessions to your unique relationship needs - whether you’re seeking to strengthen a partnership, improve family dynamics, navigate workplace challenges or heal from past relational wounds.
How Sessions Work
To give you the best chance of creating lasting change, I recommend starting with weekly sessions. This steady rhythm helps us build momentum, explore new strategies and create a safe space for you to reflect and grow.
Because many of these approaches are experiential, I may suggest gentle “home practice” between sessions - simple reflections, communication tools or values‑based exercises that help you apply what we’ve explored in real life. These practices aren’t about getting it perfect, but about building new habits of awareness and connection, step by step.
Individual Online or In‑Person Sessions
Individual counselling sessions are available online Australia‑wide or in person in Coomera on the Gold Coast.
Moving Forward with Clarity and Connection
Relationship counselling is not just about solving problems - it’s about helping you understand yourself more deeply, strengthen your ability to connect and move forward with greater clarity and confidence in all areas of your life.
If you’re ready to take the next step, I’d be honoured to walk alongside you.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is individual relationship counselling?
Individual relationship counselling focuses on helping you understand and improve the relationships in your life, whether romantic, family, friendship or work-related. Instead of working with both people together, we explore your experiences, patterns and needs so you can create healthier, more balanced and fulfilling connections.
Is this the same as couples counselling?
No. Couples counselling involves working with both partners at the same time.
Individual relationship counselling focuses solely on your perspective, emotions and patterns. This can be especially helpful if:
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You want to work on a relationship even if the other person isn’t involved
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You’re unsure what you want or need in the relationship
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You’re navigating family, friendship or workplace challenges
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You prefer a private space to reflect before involving anyone else
What kinds of issues can I work on in relationship counselling?
Common areas include:
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Ongoing conflict or misunderstandings
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Feeling disconnected or unsupported
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Difficulty expressing needs or setting boundaries
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Trust issues or past relationship wounds
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Navigating separation, change or uncertainty
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Repeating patterns you want to understand or shift
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Relationship anxiety, people-pleasing or fear of conflict
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Family tension, friendship breakdowns or workplace dynamics
If it affects how you relate or connect with others, it can be explored in relationship counselling.
Can counselling help if the relationship has already ended?
Absolutely. Many people come to counselling after a breakup, family rupture or friendship loss.
We can explore:
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Healing from emotional pain
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Making sense of what happened
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Understanding past patterns to prevent repetition
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Rebuilding confidence and self-worth
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Preparing for future relationships with more clarity
How will counselling help me improve my relationships?
Counselling can help you:
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Understand your emotional patterns and triggers
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Communicate more clearly and confidently
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Set healthy boundaries without guilt
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Respond to conflict in calmer, more constructive ways
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Build trust and emotional connection
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Gain clarity about what you need from the relationship
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Strengthen your sense of self and self-worth
Small internal shifts often lead to meaningful changes in how you relate to others.
What therapeutic approaches do you use?
I draw from a blend of evidence-based and relational approaches, including:
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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
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Gottman Method (Level 2 Training)
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
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Presence-Oriented Relationship Therapy
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Advanced Study in Relationship Counselling & Conflict Resolution
These approaches help us explore both the emotional patterns within you and the interaction patterns that play out in your relationships.
What if I’m not sure whether I want to stay in or leave a relationship?
That’s completely okay. You don’t need to have the answers before you begin. Counselling provides a space to untangle your thoughts, explore your fears and values and gain clarity about what feels right for you.
Can counselling help if I keep repeating the same patterns in relationships?
Yes. Many people notice recurring cycles, choosing similar partners, losing themselves in relationships, avoiding conflict or struggling with trust or closeness.
Together, we can explore why these patterns show up and practise new ways of relating that feel more grounded, secure and aligned with your values.
Do you give advice or tell me what to do?
I won’t tell you how to run your relationships, but I will support you to understand your needs, identify patterns and develop the tools to make decisions that feel right for you.
My approach is collaborative, compassionate and tailored to your goals.
How often should I attend sessions?
I generally recommend starting with weekly sessions, as this helps build trust, maintain momentum and support meaningful progress. Over time, we may shift to fortnightly depending on your needs.
Will there be work to do between sessions?
Sometimes. I may offer optional home practices such as communication tools, reflection prompts or values-based exercises. These help integrate insights into daily life, but they’re always gentle and manageable, never overwhelming.
Do I need to be in a relationship to attend relationship counselling?
Not at all. Many clients come while single to explore past patterns, build relational confidence or prepare for future relationships.
Is online counselling as effective as in-person?
For most people, yes. Online counselling offers flexibility, accessibility and privacy, while still providing a warm, supportive therapeutic relationship.
How long does relationship counselling take?
It varies. Some people benefit from short-term support (6–10 sessions) to work through a specific concern. Others choose longer-term work to deepen self-awareness and reshape long-standing relational patterns. We can talk about what feels right for you.
What if I feel nervous about starting counselling?
It’s completely normal to feel unsure or vulnerable at first. My role is to create a gentle, non-judgemental space where you can go at your own pace. You don’t need to prepare anything, we start wherever you are.
How do I get started?
You can book an initial session, where we’ll explore what’s been happening in your relationships, what you’re hoping for and how we can work together. There’s no pressure or commitment, just a supportive conversation to begin the process.